When the mirror reflects a stranger, where do we turn for the true picture of self-worth? I was fortunate enough to converse with Ada, a happiness and confidence coach, who unraveled the often misunderstood tapestry of self-confidence. Our conversation uncovers the delicate balance between embracing our vulnerabilities and fostering genuine self-assurance.
Ada's expertise enlightens us on the transformative power of self-acceptance as we navigate the complex relationship with food, body, and mind—a journey that underscores the essence of building lasting confidence.
Through the pages of our lives, we script stories that shape our self-image, but not all narratives serve us well. This episode is a candid reflection on personal crossroads and the role they play in our ongoing quest for happiness.
It's an intimate look at how redefining our goals and reframing our relationship with exercise and diet can be the keystones to an unshakeable sense of self-worth, illustrating the profound impact of self-love and personal evolution.
Embark on a journey with us as we navigate the landscapes of identity and self-perception. We discuss how even the simplest of choices, can be an act of self-empowerment, and how facing the opinions of others is part of the path to authenticity. Embracing insecurities is not a sign of weakness, but a courageous step toward building authentic confidence. Join us in this heart-to-heart, and you might just discover how revising the stories we tell ourselves can lead to a more empowering and confident life, rich with self-discovery and genuine fulfillment.
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When the mirror reflects a stranger, where do we turn for the true picture of self-worth? I was fortunate enough to converse with Ada, a happiness and confidence coach, who unraveled the often misunderstood tapestry of self-confidence. Our conversation uncovers the delicate balance between embracing our vulnerabilities and fostering genuine self-assurance.
Ada's expertise enlightens us on the transformative power of self-acceptance as we navigate the complex relationship with food, body, and mind—a journey that underscores the essence of building lasting confidence.
Through the pages of our lives, we script stories that shape our self-image, but not all narratives serve us well. This episode is a candid reflection on personal crossroads and the role they play in our ongoing quest for happiness.
It's an intimate look at how redefining our goals and reframing our relationship with exercise and diet can be the keystones to an unshakeable sense of self-worth, illustrating the profound impact of self-love and personal evolution.
Embark on a journey with us as we navigate the landscapes of identity and self-perception. We discuss how even the simplest of choices, can be an act of self-empowerment, and how facing the opinions of others is part of the path to authenticity. Embracing insecurities is not a sign of weakness, but a courageous step toward building authentic confidence. Join us in this heart-to-heart, and you might just discover how revising the stories we tell ourselves can lead to a more empowering and confident life, rich with self-discovery and genuine fulfillment.
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One of the first things that I always explain at the beginning of the journey is that the key is to know that insecurity has a place. Insecurity and confidence have to walk together, that your confidence is not going to magically appear when you magically get rid of insecurity, but rather when you're okay when those insecure moment comes, where a lot of us shut down when that insecurity shows up or really judge ourselves when we feel insecure, or we push that feeling away and we pretend that it's not there.
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Speaker 2:Today, I ran across this quote that I want to share with you guys. It's by Oscar Wilde. It said to love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. I love that which brings me to today's guest. I want you to help me welcome Ms Ada. She is a happiness and confidence coach with a special focus on food, body and mind freedom. She's dedicated to transforming the way you interact with food, your body and yourself. She's going to help us, guide us through this journey of self-discovery and overcoming some personal barriers that I think we all have around all of those. She's the creator of Find your Happy Method, a comprehensive one-on-one coaching program aimed at empowering individuals to lead their happiest and most confident lives. Welcome, thank you so much for sharing your time and space with us.
Speaker 1:Hello, welcome. Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited to chat with you today.
Speaker 2:I am too. I feel like this is such a great conversation, especially when we are stepping into this new idea of self-discovery and just really owning like who we are owning your body, loving everything about yourself and having a new relationship with how we view food and how sometimes that can cause us to have barriers.
Speaker 1:Oh, my goodness. Yes, I think that the journey it's funny because the journey of the body and the food and even exercises start really kickstart something amazing because it comes back to rediscovering, to coming back to yourself and I think that's, like you said, a beautiful quote that you know falling in love with yourself. It is such a lifelong romance and we only have one of ourselves and if we are not in a, you know, like positive or not positive, about loving and compassionate and empowering relationship with ourselves, then it's hard to just, you know, walk through life, knowing how to be truly happy and because if you, if we love us, then you know that's, that's the basis for, for everything out there, for the adventure.
Speaker 2:Yes, and it's definitely an adventure of embracing and having that unconditional confidence in ourselves that sometimes comes and goes Kind of like for me something goes. I have days when certain color or something look it's like, oh, I look the best, and some days it's like, yeah, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, we had like those days, have, like I was just learning all about, like color and skin and how that Effects everything, so that's, that's a topic in and of itself. But, yeah, that Having that, like you said, that the confidence there's. There's days that are better, there is days that are a little a little, you know, a little less confident, but it doesn't take away from the fact that we, we have that inherent confidence. We, we were born with one, we were born into one, we were born as, as confident humans and even when those, or especially, I've grown.
Speaker 1:I've grown to love those days that are not so good, because I mean, that's what we're here for. Right that the beautiful days are one thing, but to be able to recognize the, the difficult days, and Know that they're, they're not taking away from who you are as a person, that they're not taking away from you being worthy, from you being confident and harrowing the confident, it's such a transformative thing to just and to just know that you're okay, no matter how. You know how difficult that a diet that day is, how, how heavy the insecurity is or how scared you're feeling, or you know the things that we, we truly Haven't learned how to deal with, but to be able to embrace them and recognize that it's all part of a journey and part of who we are and and part, big part, of this confidence. I I was just having a conversation and how those you know, the insecurity and and like the lower days, the more doubting days, are basically like the foundation for Building that confidence.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm, and we all could use a little confidence and I love the fact that you are helping people to maneuver that In the best way that fits them. So, with that, could you share a little background in how you got into you know, confidence coaching, what led you to that journey and what it's been like for you to get there?
Speaker 1:And has been a journey, and that's, I think, one thing that we need to be aware of. It is a journey like everything, and thank you for asking that. Ah, I mean, if you ask my mom, my journey started when I was three and I've always been a coach in her mind. But more consciously, more consciously, my journey started very innocently, really like I what one. I didn't know what I wanted, who I wanted to be when I grow up until, like even when I got my first corporate job, I was like I, this is not it. I still don't know who I want to be when I grow up. And, funnily enough, my, my, my journey started very innocently because it started with a weight loss goal. It started very Normally, like I think everybody, or Majority of people you know, listening and tuning in, will be able to relate to that at one point in their lives. And it started with a weight loss journey and wanting to feel a little bit more confident, lose a little bit of that. You know, first job, freedom, pizza every night, kind of a lifestyle. You know it's like I can do whatever I want and, and while I did very much, so succeed in In accomplishing that goal and navigating social media and learning all about Food tracking and how to exercise and getting into. I was training for a marathon, while doing something, while doing another like set of exercises or another program, and while on the outside. Again, I accomplished that goal and I was.
Speaker 1:I was in a very socially acceptable and Accepted and celebrated body and At the same time, it led to one of two, one of the darkest Places that I've ever been In when it comes to why I'm, as a person, my While on the outside I tried portraying the confidence that everybody thought I should have with the socially Celebrated body on the inside, I it was a little personal Hell, I won't lie. I. I remember that I got to a point where I was standing in my living room and looking at my body, looking at my stomach and Literally saying the words I hate you Out loud, and it was all that I could think about the amount of. I would look in every single reflective surface. I would make sure all the time that my hips and my Waste would fit within, like within my hands or whatever. I would like constantly check out. I Would freak out if I couldn't get my steps in. I would cry if my recipes didn't match. I would spend hours walking to to get that movement in. I would. I would be so thrown off if, if something changed, if I couldn't accomplish something, if I couldn't get the workout in or it couldn't meal prep, it was Was devastating. It took over my entire life. So, while again on the outside that I had a very successful body, on the inside I I couldn't. I don't know who I was.
Speaker 1:Back then I lost a whole sense of self and everything I could think about was body weight, exercising, moving, food, and it was. It was very difficult. I developed a lot of Obsessions, I developed a lot of anxiety. I Was. It was hard and and it lasted for a couple of years, probably until one point I remember saying that I'm done, I'm done being in this whole, I'm done with this struggle, I'm done feeling the way I feel. And I adopted a find your happy hashtag, like. I remember that again in my living room making a post on Instagram and all of a sudden, that idea of find your happy kind of came to me and from that point onwards that was like probably 17, 18, five, four, four years ago.
Speaker 1:From that point on, I started slowly letting go of certain things, so I dove into letting go of exercise, I dove into coming back to eating, and not in a way like, in a way that used to be scary. And every year since then, my confidence night would grow and change. Every year since then I was just like, oh, maybe this is what confidence feels like. And I was like, oh, then the next year would pass, like no, this is what confidence feels like, and it would just evolve and evolve.
Speaker 1:And it wasn't until a couple of years ago, actually, last year, I went through a very comprehensive program myself and did a lot of inner work and learned a lot about how like emotional well-being and emotional mastery and really diving into the stories that we tell ourselves and how to be okay with all the things that are coming at us. And it wasn't until that point and say with that, every single year my body would change again and again and again. And it wasn't until the last couple of years that I really started to know that unconditional confidence is actually possible, the one that, no matter what is on the outside, no matter how you're feeling, no matter what you're lifting, no matter what you're doing for work, no matter what is going on, you're still okay, no matter how your body looks like, no matter anything. There wasn't a but and an if and a as long as and I never knew that was possible Well, I like that.
Speaker 2:You said that. I like that. You said that it was okay, like no matter what body you was in, just having that check in to say it's gonna be okay, like no matter what. Because I feel like sometimes social expectations of people's perception on how we should feel becomes so much of our narrative that we start to feel like, well, they said I should be okay and I should be happy. This is what society is telling me, and yet I am not happy with all the things society is telling me, because there's some work, there's some things. So, as you went through your journey and you are learning these new things and discovering so much about who you are and who you wanna show up and find that happiness. What about that journey led you to saying, now that I have gotten myself into this place, I can help other people to let go of the things that seems to be holding them back, to find their own happiness loving their body, loving food again, loving just all of that what life brings to us?
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I think my own journey just evolved into the coach that I am today. Because prior to that, again, when I went through my success weight loss success I was like, ooh, that's what I wanna do. I wanna be a nutrition coach. So I started slowly going into that and through my own journey, through the mentorship, the mentors that I had along the way, through how they changed my life, how they changed my thinking, I really recognized that there's so much more to nutrition than food, than just food, and I really became so passionate to help people figure out.
Speaker 1:First it was like why can't I do the things that I want to do, so why can't I follow through? And why can I follow through? Why am I stuck? Why am I not successful? And that slowly, as my journey was evolving, I finally realized that, all in all, we do everything to feel happy, we do everything to like whatever goal we have, whatever success we're chasing. On the inside, we just wanna feel happy and we wanna feel confident.
Speaker 1:So in the fitness space, right, with food, with body, that's the underlying thing. And breaking through to the other side, where you can be okay and I think that's my definition of unconditional confidence is okayness, right. You don't have to be super high, happy all the time. You can be happy, you can be sad, you can be everything. You're just okay In the middle, you're okay. So, breaking through, knowing that you're okay, that's what led me to and I've been doing that work. Even in the beginning, even as I was starting to work with people, even in the very beginning stages of my nutrition coach journey, I always knew there's something more, there's something deeper. And now I still work with food and I still work with the nutrition piece, but in a whole encompassing way that, while you're working on your nutrition and your food and your body, that unlocks your potential to work on you and coming back to that, that okayness, that confidence and that happiness.
Speaker 2:Definitely, and I think sometimes I feel like when it comes to that nutrition piece, there are certain foods that make me feel happy, like I feel happy, like, and then sometimes I feel like certain foods I am bullied.
Speaker 2:I can say bullied, but depending on if we're in a social setting, I feel like I have to finish this food or I have to order a dessert, even if I really don't want a dessert, because sometimes people are used to seeing us eat a certain way and we changed our habits a little bit and the people that we normally go out and spend time with and we sit and eat with, when our eating has changed, when we are more cautious about the foods that make us focus, you know, because there is happiness, food like some people find happiness. I used to find happiness and eat an ice cream because that's like my favorite, but I realized as I get older ice cream is not my best friend from my digestive system. It kind of upsets my stomach. Um, I love eating celery and it's so funny because people are like that's what you're gonna get and I'm like but you don't know, celery is like.
Speaker 1:So I love that. Okay, you might be the first person that I've ever heard that like communicated to me that they love celery. There is something about celery, though. There is something about celery it is.
Speaker 2:It's like so good and I can chop it up and make it look pretty. Take it with me, like yeah, good, and when I eat it I don't feel lazy and bloat it later. I actually feel good. I feel like myself even after I eat it. So I just feel like sometimes, when we are changing some of the things that people are used to seeing us as like now you're going to the gym, now you're eating better, because with all of that it does change your confidence, your mindset and how you view yourself and other opportunities around you like it's you're letting go of a whole new version of you and seeing the potential version that you can become yes, oh, that's such a big point thank you for for bringing it up and I love that you, you love celery, like that's.
Speaker 1:That's awesome.
Speaker 1:Um, and that's such a big point to like bring up because it yeah the the hats that we put on right in social, I mean through our life, we just um kind of develop these personas, we're independent on like a social situation with these friends.
Speaker 1:I'm the fun one, with these friends, I'm the healthy one right, I remember being the healthy one, like literally the entire office at work, and the amount of comments that you get when you become the, the healthier version of yourself, the one that doesn't mold to a standard, the one that has boundaries and is confident in saying you guys are ordering dessert, I'm gonna get celery because I love it.
Speaker 1:And the amount of comments that come with that right, the amount of that almost judgment sometimes, where people really don't like either not understand or, you know, through their own jealousy, right through their own wish to be as confident as you are. There is a lot that we have to like. Breaking out of the mold and becoming your own person is a is a really hard feat to do, no matter if it's food or anything else, just breaking out of that persona that we always put on and kind of becoming that strong voice together and finding again following what makes you feel good, what makes you feel happy and that's a big part of this journey is to man coming back to that kindness.
Speaker 2:Be okay with people not understanding your choice because, yeah, you're right, it's like sly comments um masses jokes, but it's really not a joke. But I'm interested to know, like, how someone can start to embrace their insecurities instead of hiding or fighting against them, and just owning this new journey that they're on and being comfortable in their own skin.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh, oh, that you asked a million dollar question to embrace it. I love that. That embraced insecurities, because that's that, is that magic key that a lot of people are missing in that confidence in the journey, that, um, what we get sold all the time, that you know you have to not feel insecure, like let me fix your insecurity, follow this program and you will never be insecure again or you'll always be confident. You know all of these magical words that we get sold on that make us feel like it perpetuates the story that we can't be or we shouldn't feel those more. I don't like using the negative, the word negative, the more uncomfortable emotions, because there's no negative emotions, they're all just emotions we get sold and perpetuates the story that maybe we even learned as kids that you know, we, if you're having an emotion that's not happy, then it gets shut down, that you get punished for it, that you, we don't learn. So we learn early on that those emotions insecurity, sadness, anger, fear that they're not safe, that we shouldn't be having them, that if we have them, there's something wrong with us, that we can't, you know, be the person that we want to be. And that's the catch with wanting to become confident is we think that we have to. We have to get rid of that insecurity, right, we have to always be feeling really confident in ourselves, and that's a really hard thing to do. That's what a lot of people struggle with, especially when you break out and become your own person, because that again comes with a lot of external opinions that can make you feel insecure about what you're doing. That can make you question if you're doing the right things. And the key to that is that changed everything for me and that's what I teach all of my clients at.
Speaker 1:One of the first things that I always explain at the beginning of the journey is that the key is to know that insecurity has a place in confidence. Insecurity and confidence have to walk together. But it's not. You're not going to be. Your confidence is not going to magically appear when you magically get rid of insecurity, but rather when you're okay, when those insecure moment comes. So it's the learning or the curiosity around insecurity, right, a lot of us shut down when that insecurity shows up or really judge ourselves when we feel insecure, or we push that feeling away and we pretend that it's not there. And then to elevate that journey, what you can do. What you can start doing is simply noticing and the insecurity and just getting curious around it because it feels really, really scary. But if you really look closely, it's actually not that. It's actually not that scary. There's not that much to it when you start exploring it, when you start embracing it, when you start accepting it as part of, as part of life.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I think sometimes people mistake confidence, confident people as never having insecurities. I'm glad that you mentioned that they walk together in security and confidence, because you don't have one without the other. There are plenty of times where.
Speaker 2:I've been insecure, whether it was about being in a room with people. I felt like, oh my gosh, do I deserve to be here? Am I good enough to be here? Yes, I'm here, so, hey, I got to make the most of it, or just weighing that outfit, or just because one thing I noticed when I see someone, I'm like it must be very confident. I always always say people that way, like bold prints and colors are like super confident, because I am more of a muted color person, but I always love to see people in bold colors and patterns and chunky necklaces and earrings, like I'm just over the top, like I love it, but at the same time I'm like I don't know if I'll pull it off. But the truth is you don't even know if the person that's wearing it feels as confident as you think they do. You know, we don't know. They're just walking in that light saying, even if I feel a little uncomfortable, I love this outfit and I'm going to wear it. You just don't know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's the, that's the big part. It's like we don't know. We assume that we know, right, we assume that, just like with social media, for example, we assume that that person has to be confident, that person has to be confident or that person is never sad, that person like they have a good life and we just we don't know what's going on on the inside. So again, we perpetuate the story that we cannot feel bad about ourselves or we cannot feel insecure. And I will say that I think that the most confident person, the people, the people that come off as the most confident, probably have just as many of, not more, insecurities that pop up. For them, it's just how they, how they embrace them, how they walk through them, that comes, that helps or that allows them to still come off as confident.
Speaker 2:And I loved earlier you mentioned that sometimes the stories we tell ourselves, because I feel like our, our perception is our reality and if we believe that this is if I'm, you know, not confident, I am insecure or, you know, unworthy, if we believe that's our reality, that's the story we tell ourselves. If I'm interested in what stories you've, how people should start rewriting that story for themselves. You know, maybe I am a little insecure about this moment or about this thing, but I can tell myself, you know this story to help me move forward.
Speaker 1:Yes, the story work, and just as soon as you start. Because that tip number one is talk about your thoughts and the things that you believe in as stories, because all of it, sometimes we take them as truth. Right, as soon as I think it. It has to be true, right, if my mind tells me I'm not worthy or this doesn't look good on me, or people with my fun of me, we tell that as the truth. Like we take that one as this is the truth. So tip number one is to think take your thoughts and start thinking of them as stories. Right, our minds love making stuff up because they they love it, they're very creative in their more disempowering way, until we teach them otherwise. So, thinking about everything as a story, and to start, if you do have the insecure thoughts and if you do have that limiting beliefs and maybe more negative mindset, start with calling them stories and then actually writing down or getting familiar with what those stories are, because a lot of us don't know. We actually don't. We know that we feel insecure but we don't even know what our story is.
Speaker 1:What is the story that we keep telling ourselves? Because it's sometimes it's too scary to look at, sometimes it feels too scary to look at that. If I look at it, then it becomes true, right, it's like if I say it, it becomes true and that's false. That's. It doesn't work like that, right, when we only when we know and that's something that I do, I lead a, I lead a changer rewrite your story workshop, and that's one of the first questions that I always ask is what is the current story that you're telling yourself?
Speaker 1:Let's bring that in, let's actually see it, because without seeing that story, you can't know, you can't start asking questions about it. You can't, you can't understand fully what, what is causing you to feel this way? What, where did you get that story from? Right, getting, getting that story, getting aware, being aware of that story first, like, what is the story that I'm telling myself? And then you can start asking questions. If and one of my favorite ones is is that story actually yours? Yeah, right, or did you just accept it as yours? That's a big one.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's a big one, because I'm sure everyone's listening here now are like what is that story? Is that someone else's story that I have, you know, took as my own? Or someone else tell me this is my story and I just kind of accepted it like this this is me, this is who I am, and it's not.
Speaker 1:Exactly Like. That's the. That's one of my favorite questions is is that we we again, we take everything as a truth, right? So, without realizing or remembering that, we get to choose what we want to believe in, what we want to start telling ourselves and I, I will be honest, I don't believe in positive affirmations, that just straight up, because telling yourself, I'm worried the 50,000 times a day might not work for you because you might not believe that.
Speaker 1:But if you start exploring, the goal is to start exploring that story that you're telling yourself and figuring out if there is like, by questioning it, by asking it, is it mine? Start opening up your mind, opening up your perception, to see if there's any other stories that might feel a little bit more true for you. It doesn't have to be right away, the exact opposite, right? So if your, if your story is I am not good enough, and you might not believe right away that I am good enough, but you can start exploring what would good enoughness mean for me? Or what, what, what am I open to believing in this moment? Not outside of the I am not good enough story, right? So it's that exploration to see what else is possible. What's that? What else is out there, Like all of these stories I've been telling myself all of these years. I'm curious are there any other out there that maybe feel a little more true for me?
Speaker 2:Yeah, and do they match up with you know who? I believe that I am.
Speaker 1:Exactly.
Speaker 2:Yeah, sometimes when we start taking score and tallying it up, it does not make sense.
Speaker 1:Exactly. It will still keep believing it because that's the only thing that we know right and until we start. I am this person, but I don't think this story matches me anymore.
Speaker 2:No, and I feel like that's your story too, like in the beginning, like I'm going to be this. You know, you know great fitness. I'm going to be happy. You know I'm going to own this life and then recognizing, no, this, this, this doesn't make me happy and I don't want to be pressured by society and with everyone else's expectations or how I feel. I'm going to explore who I really want to be and create my own path and then help other people explore what that looks like. Was there anyone in your life that kind of like? Was that person that really helped you to like take pause in those moments and helped you through a mentor or just someone that was close to you, that kind of guided you or just maybe said hey, we need to have a talk.
Speaker 1:We need to have a talk. Um, I mean, I'm surrounded by so many beautiful people, so my husband was always one that he was the he. He comes back to those those, those those dark moments a lot and just, um, he tried pulling me out so hard but I had blinders on. It really had blinders on, like I could not see, and I feel like a lot of. If you're going through something like that, you will probably relate that that you, I can't see anything outside of that, the story that I'm living in, the, the perp, the fake purpose that I created for myself, and, um, it wasn't. I will say that I was the one that pulled me out, that decided that I need to come out, and I am very thankful to me for that.
Speaker 1:My intuition came through with that and also along the way it was, I had a couple mentors. That one was a nutrition coach that really changed how I see and food and how I see and what else is out there besides food. So I had a very at the very beginning I had a beautiful mentor that I kind of owe her all the entire shift and where I am today. And and then I did a year long mentorship last year that was led by a psychotherapist or a former psychotherapist now turned coach. That really you know, and I was the person that thought I don't need a coach, I don't, I can do this by myself, I. I don't have any issues, right, I don't have anything to work through.
Speaker 1:And boy was I wrong. And it was ever since then. Like I remember, hiring my first mentor was the scariest decision I've ever done and it catapulted really into recognizing that, no matter how good you like, how well you think you are, that outside mentorship, that outside coach, really, really kickstart and and depends the journey. So I am very thankful to the coaches that I had throughout this journey because that's where I learned a lot of the things that I thought I knew and I didn't.
Speaker 2:I love that because I just feel like everyone is listening to it. Sometimes we have people that may question us and we may not be in a space where we're ready to listen to that. So, knowing that sometimes we can be the person that saves ourselves like you can, you can yourself out on your own. But having you know, having a coach, having someone to help you through those steps because, like you said, having a coach that's deep in the experience it's scary because you're like am I really going to invest? Am I really going to do this? But then it also makes you say I am definitely do have a problem. Well, I've been denying that I can do it. I'm like I have a problem. Now I'm saying there's a problem Houston.
Speaker 1:Houston. There's a problem, yes, yeah, yeah, and it's. I mean, I consider myself very self aware, self accountable person, but I still. I just hired another coach and my third, fourth one, because one. I love working with someone else. It just again it deepens the experience be it allows you to have, especially in not everybody will understand the journey that you're going through. So your support system might support you so well and still not understand the nitty details of your journey, of where you're going, of what you need, and to have that person be there for you to point out the things that you might omit to, to really bring that expertise or to really be that little that like accountable voice can really like investing in myself as like one of my favorite things to do now, because it's just so expensive.
Speaker 2:It is. It really really is. Now, before we wrap this up, I really am very interested in I ask everyone this when it comes to redefining what self care is, because I just don't feel like self care fits in any one box, is different Every day for me is different, just depending on what's happening, what's going on. I'm interested to know, when it comes to you, what is one way you are, or maybe it's more than one way, but how are you redefining self care for your daily life and your growth and evolution to your journey?
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh, I love that question and so so good, because I've been thinking about it a lot recently and one of the things that I continuously redefine self care is that it has to be something to do, so it has to be an addition to your life.
Speaker 1:A lot of the times, we think self care means, okay, I have to carve out time to do this, or I have to carve out and and there is many there is, you know, reflection and walking and exercise, like all of those things I do. And my biggest way that I redefine self care was that to actually say no to things to create room to in order to be able to add to your self care routine. That starts with creating room for it, a k a, taking note of everything that you do and removing things from your plate. That is my like forever. I was like, yep, you got in order to add to your self care, you got to remove things first, so self care can look like saying no and clearing out your plate, a little of the things that you think you have to do but can wait.
Speaker 2:I couldn't agree with you more. It definitely does remove saying. Saying no makes space for some of the things that will add to your life and help you on whatever journey that you're on, so I like that idea. Now tell people how they can connect with you, how they can learn more about what you do, and how you may be able to connect with them as they transition throughout their journey.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I would. So I hang out on Instagram the most. So, if you want, I would love to connect with you. I would love to have. I, first and foremost, love conversations, so if you have a conversation, please reach out, because I am an open on an open, an open book and I just love connecting with other people. That's been my, my goal for this last year and this new year is to connect with even more people. So I am on Instagram at adda on this. So ADA, undis, and if you want to learn more about the programs that I have, I you can find it on my website at f? Y happy find your happy. F? Y happycom.
Speaker 2:Okay, but don't worry you guys, if you do not have a pen and paper, all of that information will be there in the show notes for you so you can connect and learn more as you go through your own journey to finding confidence and finding your happy, which I think we're all on a journey.
Speaker 1:Yes, let's, let's keep smiling people. Yes.
Speaker 2:Now, as we leave here today, I will. I just want to remind you of Oscar Wilde's words to love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance, so I hope you take that with you into your day. Now, that is all the tea that I have to spill today, but guess what? You can join me each and every Tuesday for more delicious hot tea. Until next time, my friend Namaste.