Ep 117 Is There An Art To Letting Go

Have you ever felt stuck at a crossroads, unsure but ready for change? Join me, Mikita, as we end with Part 1 of the letting go season with real talk about self-acceptance, facing our inner doubts, and the bravery it takes to ask for help.

I’ll share my own stories—dealing with heartbreak, learning it’s okay to pause, and finding true work-life balance. It’s all about letting go of what doesn’t serve us and embracing who we are.

We’ll also chat about the real power of self-care and how having support can help us grow. Self-care isn’t just a buzzword—it’s a personal journey unique to each of us.

Thank you for being on this journey with me. As we close this season and look forward to the next, let’s carry a message of hope and remember: letting go of past regrets frees us to be there for ourselves and others fully.

Chapters

• 0:00 Embracing Vulnerability and Seeking Help
• 8:17 Embracing Self-Care and Growth

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

And our biggest thing is we think that when we say I need help is that we're not enough on our own, we're incapable, we're weak, but it doesn't mean any of that. You're not weak for needing help. You're more than enough just because you asked for help, and the people in your life are there to be that person for you. Hey there, I'm Makita, a small town girl with dreams who started a podcast with an old headset and a laptop at my kitchen table and made my dreams come true. On my podcast, time for Tea with Makita, we chat about living life unapologetically, on your terms, from career advice, entrepreneurship, relationships and everything in between. This is your one-stop shop for real conversations and inspiration. If you're looking for connection, then you've found it here. Join me every Tuesday as we dive into those sometimes hard-to-have conversations. So grab your cup of tea or coffee and get comfy, because this is Time for Tea with Nikita and the tea is definitely hot. Ever feel like you need a superpower boost of motivation with exclusive tips and tools with your goals in mind? Well, say hello to your new inspiration hotspot the Tuesday Tea Newsletter, your weekly infusion of big thinking energy that will propel you to chase your wildest dreams and never shy away from using the power of your voice. Sign up for the Tuesday Tea newsletter today at beautifullyunbalancedcom and elevate your goals to the next level. Welcome back. It is definitely time for tea. I'm your host, makita. I just want to thank you so much for sharing your time, your space and, of course, your amazing energy with me. I just want to thank you so much for sharing your time, your space and, of course, your amazing energy with me. Wow, today has been such a beautiful day. At the time of recording this, it is beautiful outside. It's warm. You know. I got the opportunity to spend some amazing time with both my girls, my mom and my great niece, and we went to the park. I played on the seesaw Like I haven't played on a seesaw in years and it, to me, was just those small moments of being with family that really just gave me an opportunity to just appreciate the small things in life. So, with all of that being said, welcome to the final episode of this season of our podcast.

Speaker 1: 2:26

Now, throughout this season, we've explored the theme of letting go. I dive deep into topics like work-life balance, self-acceptance, overcoming our past mistakes, redefining our relationship with money and battling imposter syndrome. Today, we wrap up this journey by reflecting on the power of letting go and embracing change. Personally, this season has been transformative for me. I've embarked on a journey of self-discovery and growth. I've learned some valuable lessons about what it means to let go and to live authentically. One of the biggest takeaways for me has been realizing that I am enough just as I am, and that leaning into the unknown can lead to incredible opportunities. And no, it's not always easy.

Speaker 1: 3:14

When I started this year out and I picked my word of the year letting go I knew that there was a lot of things that I needed to let go of. This idea of not being enough, not doing enough, really was taking like this. I could feel it. I could feel a shift, as if to say all right, you've done the work, it's time to let this go, it's time to step into it, it's time to get over it. It's time to step into it. It's time to get over it. Put your big girl pants on, lean into this uncomfortable feeling and just know that you're going to be okay. And that's what it was like. I had this feeling of things were going to be taking place that I could not control, and as hard as that is, that has been the biggest lesson for me that I cannot control everything, no matter how much I try that I have to be vulnerable, even though I hate it. Sometimes I have to show my scars and people do appreciate it. Though it may hurt, sometimes you will be okay it. Though it may hurt, sometimes you will be okay.

Speaker 1: 4:26

As I shifted and leaned into this year, I went through a couple of heartbreaks. I lost my best friend and I had to learn how to navigate without her, and it hasn't been easy. I don't think when you lose someone it's ever easy. I don't think when you lose someone it's ever easy, but you do learn how to appreciate the time that you had with them and be thankful for every moment that you did. Now I've had a lot of conversations with some very amazing guests that have been truly enlightening, from discussing the pearls of workaholism, from discussing the idea of all work and no play, from discussing the idea of all work and no play, and embracing our true selves and letting go of past regrets. Each guest has brought a unique perspective on the theme of what it means to let go, but one common thread has been the importance of self-awareness and the courage to let go of what no longer serves us.

Speaker 1: 5:42

When I talk about working all the time and feeling like you can never hit, stop or pause, that you have to be on the hamster wheel at all times or disaster will strike. This idea has taught me that if I don't rest, if I don't show up for me, then there is no way I'm going to be able to show up for anyone else. I value my rest, I and if you truly believe that you are enough, then if you do your best, if you work as hard as you can, you make the best decision that you can in the moment, then it's a time when you have to hit pause, you have to step back and it's okay. And one of the things that I've learned and I'm going to tell you sometimes it's really hard to sit and not do anything, but what I learned is that we can't do everything by ourselves. You have to have help. You have to be okay with saying I need help and, though it's one of the toughest things that we can ever do, it's one of the most rewarding to know that the people you have in your life are there waiting for you to let them know you need their help so they can return the favor and be there for you like you're always showing up for them. And sometimes we want people to read our mind and just know that we need their help. But until we ask, no one wants to assume you need help when you don't. And the idea of asking for help can be sometimes one of the most vulnerable things that you can do. And our biggest thing is we think that when we say I need help is that we're not enough on our own, we're incapable, we're weak. But it doesn't mean any of that. You're not weak for needing help. You're more than enough just because you asked for help and the people in your life are there to be that person for you.

Speaker 1: 8:17

It's an episode in Grey's Anatomy where Merteth is like her and Yang. She's like she's my person, her and Yang. She's like she's my person and I'm like, yes, I know what that means to have a person that you can call any time of the day. You can show up, you can be your messy self, and they don't care. They just love you for being you, for all the things that make you you. They are for it, they are there for it and they're just waiting for you to say can you help me, can you be there for me, can you be my person? So I think I've really, I've really like felt like these conversations went beyond just talking, but a chance to self-reflect, a chance to look at our lives in a different way, from a different perspective. We all have regrets, but we also know we can't change the past. We can only change how we react the next time that it happens, and know that as we grow, as we learn, the more tools that we have in our toolbox, the better decisions that we can make with the information that we have.

Speaker 1: 9:47

Letting go of the belief that we must constantly work and sacrifice. Sleep for success is crucial, and finding balance and prioritizing self-care not only improves your well-being, but also enhances your productivity and your creativity. Now I'm all about redefining self-care. I don't feel like self-care fits in a box. Now I'm all about redefining self-care. I don't feel like self-care fits in a box. I don't think there's a one-size-fits-all shoe.

Speaker 1: 10:18

The idea of self-care can look totally different for each one of us. For some people, it's buying yourself some flowers every Friday. For some of us, it's making sure that we show up for ourselves, that we take the time out to do the little things like meditate, journal, spending time with family and friends. Self-care can look like sitting with yourself in silence, reminding yourself that you're enough, reminding yourself that you're enough, reminding yourself that you are valued. Self-care can look like go ahead and buying yourself that outfit that you wanted, that purse that you've been eyeing. Self-care can look like going for the job that you know you deserve. It could be speaking up for yourself when normally you shy away from standing up. You define it. No one else and I think that's the biggest thing for me is understanding and knowing that I can define what self-care is going to look like depending on how I feel. Each and day I get to change it. Sometimes it's like adding an extra 10 minutes to my sleep. Sometimes it's sitting in bed and doing nothing, just enjoying the peace and quiet, the peace and quiet. And sometimes it looks like buying my favorite ice cream and not caring about anything else but delicious chocolate gooeyness. And that's okay too.

Speaker 1: 12:06

In this season we talked about imposter syndrome how it can be crippling, but acknowledging our accomplishments and knowing our worth when we let go of self-doubt, it allows us to step into our power and achieve our goals and imposter syndrome that we. I think one of the things we have to understand is, when we talk about imposter syndrome is that we all feel it in some form. Some way, we all go through periods where we're like what am I doing? Who said I should be having this job? And then reminding ourselves that we're more than equipped. We're not supposed to know everything, but we're supposed to learn and to grow, and we can't evolve if we never give ourselves a fair chance. We also talked about the power of leaning into the unknown and, like I said earlier, leaning into the unknown is not my strong suit. It's actually one of the toughest things that I do.

Speaker 1: 13:03

Embracing uncertainty and taking risks can lead to incredible growth and discoveries, but it always seems easier when someone else does it. It's always great looking in from the outside and cheering someone else on, but it's much harder to look in ourselves and cheer ourselves on, because we build up all these roadblocks for ourselves. Right, we can always see how someone else can do it and all the people that they have in their corner and all the great attributes that they have, but it's much harder to look at ourselves and say you got this. Look at all of these things that you've done and look at how you've grown. You can definitely step into this. You can do it.

Speaker 1: 13:51

It's stepping out of our comfort zone that opens us up to the world of possibilities and recognizing that when we're doing something amazing, it's going to be uncomfortable because it's going to challenge us, and that's okay. It's not pretty, sometimes it's very messy, sometimes it looks like coming home shedding tears, sometimes it looks like sitting in the car wondering what you got yourself into, and sometimes it's like patting yourself on the back saying I knew you could do it all along, and I know you can do it. As we continue to lean into all the uncomfortable moments, to shift, to pivot, to change, the one thing I hope that you took away from this season is that you're capable of amazing things and that as you start to let go and peel back the layers, as you lean into your uncomfortable, know that you're not alone, that you have a team, a crew, your peeps, your person that is cheering you on every step of the way. As we wrap up this season, I want to express my gratitude to each and every one of you, to everyone that I saw, who've embraced me, who has reminded me that each and every episode has inspired them in some way, in some form. I thank you and remember letting go is not about giving up, but rather about freeing yourself from what holds us back. And remember to stay tuned for next season. We will be exploring new themes as we continue our journey of growth together.

Speaker 1: 15:41

And if you haven't listened to some of the episodes that I talked about, go back, catch up and remember the tea is always hot. All right, you guys, that's all the tea that I have to spill today, but please join me each and every Tuesday as we spill more delicious hot tea. And if you've not yet connected with me on social, you know where to find me. Find me at Makita Smith underscore on Instagram, makita Smith on Facebook, and I can't wait to connect with you. Dm me, send me a message, let me know how I can be there to support you along the way. All right, you guys, until next time, namaste.